From Fear to Confidence: How to Use 4 Powerful Steps to Master Public Speaking
Have you ever taken a moment to look back on your journey toward a goal?
We often set our sights forward, but reflecting on our progress can be just as powerful.
Two years ago, I joined Toastmasters with a simple but ambitious goal: to become a better communicator. I wanted to surround myself with people who had mastered the skills I was striving to develop. I joined the distinguished Walnut Grove Toastmasters Club without knowing much about it. I initially thought it was a monthly commitment, only to find out it was weekly—demanding more time and effort than anticipated.
Upon joining, I was paired with a mentor, Stefano Cossalter. I was honoured to have a mentor as distinguished as him. He has coached TedX speakers, won national championships, and ranked in the top ten internationally in speech competitions. Stefano asked me about my goals, and I shared my dream: confidently delivering a speech at the Pacific Dental Conference. He introduced me to a structured process for improvement that I will never forget. He explained that growth in public speaking, like any skill, requires conscious effort and practice. He outlined four stages of learning:
Unconscious of Your Flaws – You are unaware of your mistakes, such as excessive filler words, poor body language, or lack of engagement.
Conscious of Your Flaws – You begin to recognize your weaknesses but find it challenging to correct them.
Conscious of Your Strengths and Improvements—You know what you can improve and focus intently on making those adjustments.
Unconscious of Your Strengths and Improvements – Your skills become second nature, and confidence replaces self-doubt.
This process required me to become aware of my weaknesses. Stefano provided invaluable feedback by reviewing recordings of my speeches. Watching myself on video was uncomfortable but necessary. At first, I cringed at my mistakes. I had so many areas to improve that I had to tackle just one or two at a time. I would have become overwhelmed if I had tried to fix everything at once. Growth is gradual, and each slight improvement adds up over time.
Fast-forward two years, and I achieved my goal—I spoke at the Pacific Dental Conference. Standing on that stage, I felt no nerves, only excitement. I had put in the effort, refined my skills, and built my confidence. Achieving a goal isn’t about luck; it’s about committing to the process, embracing discomfort, and continuously striving for improvement.
Now, I challenge you to reflect on your journey. What goals have you accomplished that once seemed out of reach? Take pride in your progress, celebrate your growth, and set your sights on the next goal. The path to success is always forward, built step by step through perseverance and dedication.
What’s your next goal? The journey starts now.